Back to work and straight to hospital

Beginning of june I started working. It was a good chance that came up, as a freelancer, well paid, and for a maximum of 400 hours. (It's kind of weird to negotiate the maximum of hours, instead of the minimum.) Very quickly I realized it's not for me anymore, the nonsense of projects and consultants and different groups trying to make others responsible for their delays. Anyway, I said to myself, it was only for the money and for 2 or 3 months and after that I could take half a year holiday if I wanted to.

Second thing I realised, I didn't have time for anything anymore. The job was boring but that was not not an issue, it was just something that I had to do and I did it for the money. The problem was that it was the only thing that I would do during the day. Even if it was a normal journey of 8 hours, then I had to cook, and eat, and rest and relax a little, a shower in the morning, stuff like that, and there was no time left for anything else. Damn, I repeated to myself, "money... 2/3 months... half a year holiday".

But then it happened. The doctor does not quite agree, but for me it is clear. My body could not stand it anymore, and after 9 days, my pancreas tried to commit suicide...

However, it was not too tough, not as bad as it may sound. The day after, already in my hospital bed, the gentle nurses smiling and asking me, my answer was yes I was feeling much much better. A few days afterwards I was really ok, and before one week I was back to the streets... back to work.

Let's see if I can get my body to understand: it's a matter of money for 2/3 months, and then half a year holiday. If it does not want to understand, then of course there's nothing I can do and I'll have to take the holiday straight ahead... not in a hospital bed, I hope.

Sex is the answer

The number of readers, which was very small already, is going down since I've changed the face of nadaism. “We were very few and grandma got pregnant”, as the spanish saying goes (although the meaning for me is somewhat ambiguous). First of all I must say that I will keep on writing if there's at least one person connecting let's say once a month. Secondly, I've been thinking what would it be it's making it so boring, I honestly believe the matter has huge importance for the day-to-day life, what could I do to make it more amusing, and I thought maybe sex was the answer.

Besides, since this is something posted in the Internet, probably by writing the word sex a few times (sex sex sex sex), quite a few people whose names you dont even know start getting really interested.

Maybe I've created a bit of atmosphere with the 2 paragraphs above, maybe I didnt, anyway if I did I'm going to break the spell quickly: anthropology is actually the answer. I went one morning to the library and I realized that everything was written already. Well, probably there's something written about everything, and I mean everything-everything. As for this subject in particular, anthropologist have written a lot.

It makes sense; a simple approach that I had in mind to prove that men and women are equal was to check gay couples (maybe some sex coming back on this paragraph), which I'm pretty sure will be in quite a struggle to live together, and they won't be able to blame it to the fact that “all women are the same” or “men are always like this, interested on only one thing -sex”. Well, anthropologists decided to take a look not at homosexuals but at another cultures, and not because they wanted an answer for any question, but just because it's their job; anyhow their findings are amazing.

They basically say that the sexual roles are cultural. Which includes sexual behavior and habits; I leave that for your imagination -their examples are somewhat too exotic, about tribes in Africa or in Indian America. At the end, fertility is the only difference between men and women, not sex, and culture is the “grammar of conduct”, of all conduct, they say.

I'll end this post with a quote of the Kama Sutra, (which could add some more readers, the ones a bit bored of sex): “Women are the eternal mystery. It's impossible to know how far the love of a women goes, because the nature of females is subtle and intelligent.”

To differentiate

When people make generalizations they base themselves on their personal experiences, (which are necessarily limited, i.e. relatively limited), and besides on their values and believes, opinions, on the way they feel. If you ask them about the differences between both sexes, for example...

Some would use their religious background, which can be so varied depending on the religion itself, but essentially refer to procreation: that's for them the key to define the roles of men and women. I dare to say, with all due respect, it's a limited view.


Then there's science. Some might point out human beings are mammals at the end, which means they have a defined strategy for reproduction: females have just a few chances to have babies, they carry them for months on their bellies and the new-borns are weak and must be taken care of for years; in consequence, they select very carefully the men who will be faithful and stay with them throughout the process. Besides there's genetics, which means that males are supposed to spread their sperm as much as they can, while females have somehow to detect which males are healthier and more capable so that they can cross with them, giving more chances to their offspring. And that's a limited view, I dare to say.

Science would also study physiological differences between men and women, and will test some parameters of intelligence to that they make clear there are some various tasks which are done better by either one or another; e.g. men more capable when reading a map or in arithmetics, women better in geometry. So what?, I'd humbly ask.


There's even some half mystic standpoints, so that men and women would be different and complementary, and that's why their union makes so much sense. Polarity and attraction, the parts and the whole, etc. Well... to me, that's like any other believe.


Just look up the dictionary: to differentiate means to percieve there's a difference, but also to establish it, to make it different.

The obvious differences

Body shapes. Some internal organs. Hormones. "Those days of the month". And only women get pregnant. There are some phisological differences everybody could agree with.

There's cultural differences: men and women are not educated the same way, i.e. they are repressed in different ways. For instance, men should not cry, women should always look beautiful.

There's the common vague understanding that men are somewhat more rational, (in their behaviour and decisions), while women are somehow more connected to their emotions, (i.e. women manage their emotions in a better way, and use them).

And there's the mysterious way in which women know exactly how much more they feel like eating or drinking, and in consecuense at the end of the meal they just sip your glass or cut a portion of a precise weight from your plate - it's exactly the piece they miss.


Those above are the differences I will accept. For the rest, I'll try to prove that men and women think the same way.